Nice guys don't win

He says:

The first date I had in LA was thanks to the gallery scene I latched onto when I arrived in Santa Monica in late-2003. Oh, man - that girl was hot in a mixed-Japanese kinda way, but she was a bit of a beetch and taught me a lesson I'd like to share with all the fellas.

I'm a pretty together guy, but I admit I'm a bit too 'nice' (arrgh, I hate that description). And that kind of attitude is not what makes the 'right' impression with girls you're trying to hit on. Girls want some other attitude, some arrogance, some 'game', and I guess a bit of a player. Come on, be honest!

Case in point: I'm in a gallery in Santa Monica where I'd befriended the owner - (yes, two weeks in and I'd already lined up a DJ slot in said gallery for the next show). That night, I see this hottie and for some reason think I know her (how could I, I'm new to LA, right?), so I stare at her a little too long as she enters the gallery. That's it....a bit of attitude on my part and she's into me. I go and talk to her and find myself inviting myself to her weekend hiking trip and getting her contact details. That hike never happened, but we do go out for dinner and some art show.

Now, I was thinking "I like this girl". That means, I'm treat the girl with some level of respect and I'm not going to try to bed you straight away. Unfortunately, that was/is my downfall. This girl was happy to make-out in the car, but she looked at me like I was mental when I didn't invite her in for a 'nightcap'. Uh, in hindsight I messed up. Any good host would've at least offered coffee!

May be I draw the line too firmly and have set ideas about how dates are meant to progress. May...may be not. Anyway, the second date was not great and the third was down right diabolical. I should've thought less about next week, and more about the next morning and just bedded her. Live and learn...I try, but it's hard not being nice!

Read this article from Heartless Bitches - they are bitches, but there's some truth in them words!

She says:

Your problem wasn't that you were too nice. You simply didn't pick up on the hint, i.e. the mental look. Hello!!