One night stands....Yey or Nay?

He says:

My mate, R, and I met up last night to catch up. And the subject of one night stands came up. Yes, this is what guys take about over a beer sometimes, when there's no sport to commentate on ;-)

So, R said he's had two such experiences. "Me too", I exclaimed, in a moment of male-bonding! R went on to say that girl #1 rode him hard (yes, guys talk like this); the other, girl #2, went into some post-coital nest-building thing and started to plan. He got up and fled the scene. It's this last girl that I feel compelled to write about. What was she thinking?

Listen, as my girlfriend E says, if you sleep with someone on a first-date or after you've randomly met them at a bar/restaurant/airport lounge (delete as necessary) then get it in perspective: this isn't anything resembling a steady relationship and can't be easily converted into one. I'm not saying it can't turn into a dating thing, but the guy is wanting 'wham, bam, thank you madam', and all girls should understand that.

May be this was an example of the cliche that 'girls use sex to get love; guys use love to get sex', although I know R never used those immortal three words, "I heart you..."

She says:

All girls SHOULD understand that men who are out for a one night stand simply want just that. But try telling that to a single woman who's hit her 30's, aching to get married, and panicking at the increased pounding of the "tell-tale" biological clock!

Guys, it's the luck of the draw these days. You'll either get an uber independent woman who wants exactly what you want - a hot night with no strings attached...or you'll find a rabbit boiling in your pot one evening. Scary, but true. I've met some pretty crazy women AND men who are capable of causing some serious drama in your life if you don't "heart" them back!

But in all seriousness, you can't really fault the woman if she "hopes" for something more out of a one night stand. Isn't it universally known that most women are more emotional and can't help but let feelings get in the way? At the same token, isn't it universally known that most men are simple creatures who can completely compartmentalize their emotions? Men and women are wired differently and as logical as it seems to keep it in perspective, when it comes to a one night stand someone always ends up getting hurt....and not in a good way.