He says: I was at a friend's new downtown condo and the place was overrun with lady lawyers. It's always interesting to eavesdrop on women in conversation, but add to that ladies that strategize and argue for a living?! It adds to some priceless fodder for Sweeet and Sour.
Lawyer B was telling my Lawyer A friend about a guy she's dates a couple of times. But right now, she's hoping it fizzles out. The vibe isn't there and she doesn't want to be straight and say so, mainly because it he doesn't seem that keen himself so probably won't pursue the relationship. A great prospect for the 'fizzle out'!
But she's frustrated. No, not in that way ;-) But by the fact he calls occasionally.
However, he doesn't suggest another date or rendezvous...he just asks 'how her day was' and chats aimlessly. No request for coffee, dinner, no nuthin'! 'What does that mean?'...'What do I do?', she asked.
After much deliberation it was agreed that she shouldn't do anything differently unless he escalates things and makes his motives known. Then, and only then, should she make a work-related excuse and respectfully bow out of his dating vocabularly.
She says:
Gosh, why are women soooo nice? Why do we continue to take the calls when you want it to fizzle out? Wait, why the heck is he calling just ask how her day is rather than asking her out? Has it come to this? Dysfunctional dating??
A problem with today's daters is the inability to be honest and just say what you have to say! "Sorry, dude...I'm just not romantically into you." That's polite AND you save yourself the trouble of having to dodge calls, awkward moments, etc. If you aren't feeling the love vibe but you think the guy is cool and want to remain friends, say it just like that. If not, then c-u-t it loose!!
